The Magic of Fathers.
Not to brag, but I got to do something super cool this past weekend. I got to host and facilitate a retreat specifically for dads and their daughters.
While every parent/child retreat I’ve put on has been amazing and unique in its own way, I have to admit that this one was something special. I couldn't quite put my finger on it at first, but as I’ve reflected on it, I know it’s because I got to witness a room full of DADS who showed up eager and excited to learn more about their daughters. Considering 95% of my workshops to date have been filled with moms, this attendance list definitely brought a different energy.
And these dads didn’t just show up. They SHOWED UP! They were fully present and openly participated. They even got up and danced! Needless to say, I’m going to hold onto the magic of the weekend for as long as I possibly can.
The weekend started off strong with a meditation and yoga class led by the amazing Sofia Fernandes. While we were all warming up, Sofia talked about how up until very recently, a retreat like this wouldn't have happened. Most of us can even remember a time when it was expected that the father was strictly the breadwinner of the family. In a lot of cases, political and economic events made that the only option. In other instances, social and cultural norms told dads they weren’t expected to be connected to their kids in that way.
We took a few moments to acknowledge the opportunity we have to live in a time when fathers are becoming more and more present and emotionally available for their children. The daughters recognized and expressed gratitude for the fact that they got to sit uninterrupted in a room, side-by-side with their dads.
This is the power of present fathers. I feel it every day in my own life, and I certainly felt it in that room full of dads and their daughters all sitting on yoga mats.
Throughout the retreat, two things really stood out for me as well as for all the attendees:
In short, it was a magical weekend.
I hope this little recap inspires you the way it inspired me. I encourage you to carve out some one-on-one time with your loved ones this holiday season. I have no doubt that its these moments that build strong, resilient, kind, and conscious humans. What a gift to give your child this year!